Can Teens Spend Too Much Time With Their Friends?



Posted: Monday, April 16, 2007

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Friendship is very important to teens in general, but it is not until they are around 14 or 15 when parents begin to see that their children are spending a lot more time with their friends and less time with their family. The phone begins ringing off the wall and they may have five chat sessions going on at once. When a parent sees this, it is natural for them to be concerned, but there is one important parenting rule of thumb to remember – pick your battles wisely.

For many teens it does seem that this behavior is quite sudden. These children seem to be consumed with having friends and talk to their friends is all they want to do. Many parents don’t seem to catch this behavior until it suddenly strikes their attention one night. The great thing about being a parent is that you are able to look at this behavior and make a decision on it and it doesn’t matter how involved your teenager is, you can set limits whenever you feel like it. Why? Because you’re mom or dad and you set the limits, you don’t need to defend your decisions.

With this in mind you also want to look at your teenager’s behavior as a whole. For some teens, they may be preoccupied with their friends and they let everything else fall to the side. They stop doing their homework when they get home and they don’t help out with their household responsibilities. For these children, it is almost as if the nothing else in the world matter but their friends. If you see this occurring, then a new limit must be set and that limit is “work and then play." If this means you have to take the phone and the computer keyboard to work with you, so be it. When you get home from work they should be done with their responsibilities and they are allowed to have the phone and keyboard back.

On the other hand, if your child is still keeping up with their school work and they are not slacking around the house, then give your teens all the time they want to talk on the phone and the computer. If this makes them happy and feel good then they should be able to do this. Now, if they begin to slack or you can never use the phone when you need it, etc. then it will be time to set some limits to get them back on track.

Remember, you were a teenager once too. You probably didn’t find it too much fun to hang out with mom and dad either. Keep this in mind and watch for signs that they are getting in trouble. Set limits accordingly and pick your battles wisely. It’s not worth fighting over if they are being responsible and having fun with their friends.

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Top-level comments on this article: (4 total)
» left by phantasia
from sandy springs 3 years 113 days ago.
this article is helpful is to keep me to FROM spendin money over 600 dollars hopfully it wiil work for me
» left by Anonymous 2 years 263 days ago.
to a teen: parents=boredom and long dreary conversations. friends= fun times, laughs and just plain acceptance in a group (thats why they are your friends in the first place.)
» left by jamcutie123
from Philippines 2 years 251 days ago.
that was nice for me...im still 13 but im searching for answers on my school assignments...i need 5 reasons why teenagers spend more time with their friends than on parents...ill wait for your responce MR.Scott Clark...ill visist this tommorow...thanks a lot^_^....
» left by Nadine from Egypt 1 year 265 days ago.
OH KIDDING! Me too lol ... ^_^ But mine is quite different.. its about the prons and cons of spending too much time with friends than family =DD Can I have your assingment? =D LOL
» left by gerald chawatama
from zimbabwe 1 year 13 days ago.
peer pressure is sky diving ;the less jumps u have the greater a chance of u getting told the wrong thing by a diver with more jumps
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